Welcome back to another Ironwoman Wednesday with Jamie at From Couch to Ironwoman, Michelle at IronwomanStrong and me! We’re all training for Ironman Louisville and are coming together every Wednesday to share our journeys and talk triathlon with all you other half and full Ironmen and women!
Today we’re talking Ironman training and relationships; the good, the bad and the ugly. With all the time Ironman training takes up, how has it affected your relationships with family, friends, your spouse/significant other and co-workers? What relationships have gone downhill? What new relationships have you made? And how do you feel about it all?
I have to say I am lucky.
Pablo and I are doing Ironman training together and so unlike others, where only one significant other is training, Pablo and I are both caught in the roller coaster that is IM training. As a result, we understand each other and overall I think the experience has made us a stronger couple…most days anyways…if we’ve both eaten enough.
Otherwise….well, otherwise the hangry monster shows up in full effect. At least now I know it’s the hangry monster, which makes it easier not to take our snappy behaviors seriously.
What’s the hangry monster? A fluffy orange monster with striped limbs of course!
Hangry is when you’re so hungry, you’re angry. It’s a real, scientific phenomenon where lower blood glucose levels correlate with increased feelings of annoyance, anger and aggression. Susan Lacke wrote all about it in Triathlete Love: The Hangry Games.
So basically as long as Pablo and I are well-fed, we’re surviving Ironman training quite well, not just surviving it, really, really enjoying it.
I’ve also had positive experiences with friendships. For starters I’ve met my two awesome Ironwoman Wednesday co-hosts and I am super excited to meet them and some of the other Ironman hopefuls in person next month before we tackle 140.6 miles to get to that 4th Street Live finish line!
I’ve also met a great group of new friends through the DC Tri Club, where I went from a slightly involved member, to attending most social and training events, and this month joining the Board as the Director of Club Training. Ironman training also prompted me to take another go at a marathon, which I’m doing with Team In Training, where I’ve met another awesome group of people, and I can’t forget the Ragnar Team I am captaining, with 11 people who were previously strangers and over the past few months, as we’ve met up at training triathlons, camping weekends and social events, have started to become friends.
I know my non-triathlon friends feel neglected some days and it’s kind of annoying when I disappear for 8 hours at a time or can’t make any weekend plans, because I am either working out or sleeping, but my closest friends have been super awesome and supportive. I feel so lucky to call them my friends and have tried to make an effort to no matter how busy I get, catch up with them on social media (although I have failed at following through on some of the Skype dates we promised each other) or meet up with them for lunch (you can’t go wrong offering an Ironman-in-training to meet up over food).
Really the worst part of Ironman training, in terms of relationships, has been my inability to go home to visit my family. I got pretty spoiled last year when I was able to go home 5 times in a year, so the 1 visit I’ve had so far…well, I’m an only child and I’m from the Caribbean…wouldn’t you be home sick? I can’t wait for my parents to meet us in Louisville and hopefully I’ll get to go home at least one more time this year.
How about you? How has Ironman training affected your relationship?